I’m at that point in my life where the dating pool consists of 20-somethings who think a 5 to 10 year difference in age makes me old enough to be their father rather than a potential mate, while the rest have all played the merry-go-round of relationships/marriages which failed for whatever reason, and are now free to date again.
Suddenly the guy they rejected back in school because he failed to make the upper tier caste system of social status and coolness has now become a hot item in the single mom’s dating commodity market. So let me explain (in Dan Rather terms) why I wouldn’t touch these single moms with a 12 foot pole (the kind of pole I use for things I wouldn’t touch with a 11 foot pole.) First of all, my mother would kill me.
It will give that child abandonment issues lasting a lifetime, effecting their future relationships. #Ebrahim Aseem Meanwhile, the child’s sperm donor (aka father) plays Call of Duty, finger-banging enabling women, playing Madden, eating Cinnamon Toast Crunch out of a huge mixing bowl & buying bammer weed & over-priced Jordans with money he could be providing for his child & investing in his role as a father. Not for 2 hours bro, no stop “baby sitting your own child”, while you play daddy for another woman’s child. #Ebrahim Aseem You men will be salty as hell when your children say they don’t fuck with you when they grow up. Reassure her motherhood is not a deal breaker & she will shower you with abundant affection. “I have to be completely honest with you, because I really like you,” she confessed. Because I was raised by a queen, I know for sure, I am not looking for a girlfriend to date, I am looking for a wife to court, marry & raise children with.
#Ebrahim Aseem I will make a woman a wife before I make her a mother, because my mother raised a future husband & father, not a future baby daddy. I didn’t understand why a woman would flake, knowing you already bought tickets to something. I found out later her son had a post pulmonary interstitial emphysema outbreak. Men, we can’t always assume a woman is flaking on us, just because she’s not available to spend time with us. Two days later, Damiyah texted me apology selfies of herself & those curls, then she called me & apologized for flaking, simply saying, she had a “family emergency.” I wanted to be upset, but she was too sweet & fine to stay mad at. “The reason I flaked on our first date, was because I was in the emergency room with my son. If we aren’t planning for forever I have no interest.
Her children's games are the only ones she wants to play. Feel like she's perfect except you don't want kids?
It's probably best you move along if either of you wants something long-term.2. Instead of pretending you know what it's like, ask questions and be humble. It's also a real question that single moms actually hear. Don't be surprised — or rude — when she hasn't heard the latest from Beyoncé or seen any movies.
#Ebrahim Aseem If you’re not ready to faithfully commit to her, by all means, keep your substance-lacking side pieces & keep playing, but be honest with her.
#Ebrahim Aseem Don’t string any woman along, planting feelings in her heart & empty promises in her mind, when you know damn well you don’t see her in your #Future. Having a wife, spoiling her with love and attention, Being goofy with her, making her laugh & smile every second I spend with her. #Ebrahim Aseem I honestly pray I have all this before my moms gets too old to enjoy a daughter-in-law & grandchildren.
#Ebrahim Aseem Don’t demand her loyalty without offering her commitment, because her loyalty is to her child. If you date a single mother & her child gets attached to you, then you leave, it will crush that child. Men have no idea how hard it can be for Single Mothers to deal with the baby, get ready for work, feed the baby, get dressed, clean up after the baby, rock the baby, because the precious bundle of joy is crying, then wipe her own damn tears, because girls cry rivers having to deal with the baby all by her self. If You can’t say you love your child when you grieve, over stress & over work your child’s mother by making her do most if the work. She does it all alone & is trying to hold it all together. Towards the end of the date, however, she dropped a bombshell. Everytime I see my moms, she talks about wanting grandchildren & saying she raised me to be a husband.
The Federal Government also offers a wide variety of assistance for single mothers including, but not limited to, the welfare program which will help you with basic needs, scholarships and grants, and even low cost housing.
There are over 900 programs available and they all can be found on the government websites.