Gone are the good old days of waiting by the phone, willing your significant other to call.Nowadays, we spend our free time strategically calculating the exact length of time from when you open a text, to when you finally decide to reply. To be frank, I’m not a 100 per cent sure, but I hear it’s somewhere along the lines of a year, maybe a month, if you’re into them. Yeah, so are some of the texting “rules” listed below, but times are changing.Just don’t overdo it, and remember that humor and tone don’t always come through in a text.“[Texting] is a great way to flirt, maybe give them a taste of who you are,” says dating coach Chrisler.He sent her pictures of the baseball game he attended. She told him about her car trouble and he responded ‘why didn’t you ask me to come help? And, most importantly, how you can take control of the situation – like a grownup! If you are like Sue, Lila or Melissa, here is what you need to know: Continuous texting, when void of in-person meeting, creates a false sense of connection.Do not assume that getting a bunch of texts from a guy means you are having a relationship. If a man is choosing to only text or primarily text, he’s not showing signs of wanting to get to know you in a meaningful way. Whether it’s because they found someone else, were just playing or because they got scared — that’s 100% immaterial. You feel like you are getting to know one another, but that is not what’s happening. It is the rule that you aren’t ever supposed to text someone unless they text you back equally, which means there shouldn’t be a whole lot of blue, blue, blue, blue followed by a short blip of white.
I can’t tell you how many emails I’ve received from coaching clients with a text conversation pasted in and the question: What do you think he means (aka WTF)????Over the past few years it seems that almost every dating dilemma I hear from my coaching clients and girlfriends has something to do with the texting. He told her how busy he was and she felt flattered that he was keeping in touch.Texting and dating definitely isn’t just for 20 year olds anymore. “Melissa” stayed up until 3 AM texting with her dude. She wants to know how to stop obsessing over him being The One.Here are five that you may break or follow at your own discretion.Out of all the texting rules floating out there, this is one you definitely want to abide by.